Sanctuary or Storage? Rethinking Our Relationship With Home.

Not Just a Roof: A Reflection of Ourselves

There’s something sacred about the relationship we build with the place we call home. Over the past year, I’ve been staying in different places after ending my lease, and it’s made me observe one thing very clearly: the way people treat their homes says a lot about how they care for themselves.

As someone who has always loved creating a warm, welcoming space, I notice the details, the neglected corners, the untouched dinnerware, the broken things people learn to ignore. Maybe I notice because I’ve lived both extremes. From luxurious estates to modest apartments, from homes filled with staff to places where I was the only caretaker. I’ve lived it all. And through it, I’ve developed an unshakable belief: OUR HOME IS NOT JUST WHERE WE LIVE, IT REFLECTS HOW WE LOVE.

From Chaos to Care: My Personal Journey

I wasn’t always like this. As a child and teenager, I was the messy one. I remember my mom and sister being genuinely worried when I got married at 19, how could someone who couldn’t even keep her room tidy become a housewife?

But something shifted. Maybe it was love, maybe it was independence, or maybe it was just life gently teaching me that our space reflects our energy. I became not only organized, but someone whose sense of care and detail even surprised my family.

The Table That Gathered Us

My love for cooking grew alongside this transformation. In my childhood home, dinner was often left to the kids, we had a maid for breakfast and lunch, but dinner was “do it yourself.” I took that responsibility and turned it into joy. At my own home, I was the one always inviting people in, feeding them, creating moments around the table.

I inherited that from my mother, a romantic soul who had a placemat set for every occasion and taught me that when we invite someone into our home, we give them our best.

Loving Your Guests? Love Yourself First

What I learned later in life was even more important: WE SHOULD GIVE OUR BEST NOT JUST TO OUR GUESTS, BUT TO OURSELVES. EVERY DAY.

I didn’t care for my house just because I had guests or because I worked as an estate manager. I cared because I believed me and my son deserved a beautiful, sacred space. A space that felt like love, not just looked like it.

Even when I was managing other people’s homes, it was never just a job. It was always more. Because when you take care of a house, you take care of the people in it.

Your Home Is Talking to You. Are You Listening?

We invest so much in our homes, money, time, energy. But what’s the point of a beautiful space if it doesn’t reflect love? If it doesn’t nourish your spirit? If it doesn’t hold you like a sanctuary should?

Loving your home is an act of self-love. It’s not about perfection, it’s about presence. It’s about treating your space like a reflection of your worth.

The Invitation: Reconnect With Your Space

So I invite you to reflect:

Are you truly honoring your home?Are you showing up with care, not only when others visit, but every day for yourself?

Light the candle. Use the good plates. Clean the space that’s been bothering you. Play the music you love. And fall back in love, with your home, your life, yourself.

Love,

Dani